HowHeAsked Platinum Proposal: Grace and Matthew
How We Met
Grace’s Story: It was October 24th, 2016. I’d had a supremely terrible day at work and was ready to decompress with my roommates. We had a friend staying with us who told me she’d just downloaded a dating app called Bumble. She suggested we spend the evening looking at her profile and eating junk food. After a few minutes, I decided to create my own profile—just for fun. Of course, nothing real would come from it. I forgot about the app over the weekend, but on Monday evening I finally opened it up and the very first picture I saw was Matthew’s. I swiped right (obviously) and it said we were a match! Bumble is a ladies’ choice app, so I had to send the first message. Matthew messaged me back a few hours later. We talked a bunch over the following week (I gave him my number once I was confident he wasn’t a murderer), and decided to meet up for our first date on Sunday, October 30th, before church, for lunch. We went to Birdies downtown for fried chicken and donuts. IT WAS SO MUCH FUN. We spent four hours eating and talking and walking around downtown LA. By the time we parted ways, we both knew we wanted to see each other again.
Matt’s Story: As of October 2016, I’d been on and off dating apps for years. Some may have called me an expert (or maybe a failure) in this field. After many awkward conversations with the bachelorettes of LA, I matched with a beautiful woman named Grace. Though there was a catch on this app: I couldn’t talk with her right away. So I waited patiently for her to make the first move. Once we started talking, the conversation flowed with ease. We had so much in common! We bonded over movies, music and an obsession with food. I needed to meet this woman in person. Our first date was downtown at a chicken and donut place called Birdies. I showed up downtown early, so to stay out of the rain that’d been falling all day, I went to Verve Coffee. Grace told me she was going to be late, so I took my time at the coffee shop. Then I walked through the rain only to find out she’d gotten to Birdies early! I was bamboozled into seeming late. You can never say Grace isn’t punctual.
Once we got our food and started talking, it was like we’d known each other for years. There wasn’t a single awkward moment and we were sitting there talking for hours. I may have sounded a little crazy talking about future plans and all the things most people say not to talk about on the first date, but I stand behind my decisions. Once the rain stopped, we walked around outside until she had to go to church. I was so excited about how well the date went; I couldn’t imagine it going better. But while saying goodbye, I got a one-armed side hug normally reserved for a distant acquaintance. Instantly I thought, “Maybe it didn’t go as well as I thought.” On my way back home, I recapped the day in my head. Where did I go wrong? I couldn’t think of anything that would’ve made her give me such strong friend vibes. Then a few hours later, I got a text from her saying how much she enjoyed the date and all my worries melted away. To this day, I still joke with her about that side-arm hug, and to this day, she stands behind it.
How He Asked
I spent Thanksgiving 2017 with Matthew’s family in Phoenix, Arizona. He suggested that since we were so close, we should take a quick trip to Sedona. I agreed because traveling is my main jam. After exploring the town a bit, he suggested we go to Airport Mesa because he read it was the best place in town to see the sunset. After hunting a bit, we found a secluded bench to sit and enjoy the evening. As we sat in that beautiful place, Matthew began to recap the year we’d had together. He talked about all the amazing places we’d been, things we’d eaten, meeting each other’s families, and falling in love (I had no idea what was really happening yet, but I was already sobbing). As Matthew said all these beautiful things to me he said, “And I have no doubt you’re the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with.” I thought to myself, “Oh my God. This is happening now.” Then he got down on one knee and asked me to become his wife. How could I say anything but yes?!
PHOTOGRAPHER: Cory Kendra Photography